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The sex education dilemma

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Seems to me that there are two attitudes concerning sex education…

  • Sex education is the teaching of promiscuity, rather than of abstinence.
  • Sex education is the teaching of safety in face of promiscuity.

The Roman Catholic Church, in all of her wisdom, goes with the first one because of their ethical teaching on marriage and the family. But, as a product of the Catholic education system myself, I have to question this decision. In the past, I’ve lived a rather sheltered and naive life when it comes to sex, I’m a little embarrassed to say but up until a few years ago I thought it was possible to get an infection/disease from kissing! The very little knowledge of sex that I had came from older friends who, in retrospect, probably weren’t the most reliable sources.

At the time I was discovering new feelings, I had no idea of the dangers of exploring these. Do I not have the right to know what an sexually transmitted infection (STI) is, and how they’re transmitted? I believe you can catch some of them simply by using the same towels as other people so surely it’d make sense to give teenagers a basic overview. It’s not like teaching me that much at school would have meant I would have gone out and had sex with the nearest girl. I mean, I don’t smoke but I know all about lung cancer and other smoking-related diseases. And, you can develop lung cancer without smoking. In the same way, you can know about STIs without having sex, and you can catch some of them without it as well!

It gets a little tricky when moving into prevention of STIs. In secular schools, they’re taught how to put a condom on a banana but it’s not like that at Catholic schools since we consider condoms to be intrinsically evil. Whilst personally I would have liked to have been taught this, just out of curiosity more than anything (returning to the smoking analogy, I know how to smoke a cigarette but I choose not to), I do think it’s right that the church doesn’t teach this. Despite the fact that not doing so may encourage people to look on the Internet or ask for advice from an unreliable source, it’s asking too much – educating about STIs is one thing, but telling kids how to use condoms is another. Consider the USA, where you can shoot human-shaped targets at a firing range but are told not to shoot people – 65% of homicides in the US are committed using a firearm.

I’m not actually sure how to end this post, it doesn’t feel finished but I don’t have anything further to add. I guess I should affirm that I do agree with the church’s stance towards condoms (although I refuse to disclose my personal fidelity to this online for obvious reasons) and I’m not calling that into question, but I do think that basic education about STIs wouldn’t necessarily be the worst thing in a world as promiscuous as ours.

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Why it’s hard to be a Catholic

I can’t believe it’s been over a month since my last update! I’ve been having a lot of fun this summer with my friends and family, I know it’s a cliché but time really does fly!

Catching up on my RSS feeds I came across a quotation from Julie’s quote [sic] journal:

If you care about what people think of you, then you should have not become a Catholic.
  ~ St. John Vianney

It’s so true. Being a Catholic is not easy, after all many Catholic values are contrary to those held by modern society. Rather than post a lengthy commentary on why this is so, I’d like to share two things from my summer that highlight the dilemmas an average Catholic might face.

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Benedict quote: "I am aware of the ways in which charity has been and continues to be misconstrued and emptied of meaning, with the consequent risk of being misinterpreted, detached from ethical living and, in any event, undervalued."

I’m not going to pretend that I’ve read it, but I’ve heard that Benedict XVI’s latest encyclical Caritas in Veritate (Charity in Truth) attempts to apply Catholic moral truths to the global economy. From what I can gather, Benedict asserts that the current economic system promotes egoism and profit at the neglect of the intrinsic good of the human. Unscrupulous individuals can collect massive amounts of wealth by exploiting those poorer than them, creating a gap between rich and poor.

This message became a reality for me earlier this summer. Whilst I’m normally sensible with money, this summer I gave into temptation and used my credit card to pay for a holiday. I’ve had a lot going on this year and I figured that I earned the break. Now, however, I’m stuck with a hefty debt that I can’t really afford to repay.

I’m not blaming anyone but myself for getting into debt, but I am left questioning why the bank gave me a credit card when they knew that I had just lost my job. I do feel a little exploited, they’re making money out of my inability to repay them.

Thankfully, the debt I’m in is nothing compared to that which other people are facing. Because I’m a student I don’t have as many outgoing expenses as, say, a mother of two and I can easily make cutbacks. My social life is effectively over until the end of the year, I’m limiting my mobile phone usage and I’m going to take the first job I can find. I’m focusing all of my efforts into getting the debt gone and then I’m going to call up the bank and cancel the card.

Condoms

I’m young. Like most young people, I’m attracted to members of the opposite sex – it’s completely natural. Catholic moral teaching accepts this and directs it towards love through chastity:

Love is a gift of God, nourished by and expressed in the encounter of man and woman. Love is thus a positive force directed towards their growth in maturity as persons. In the plan of life which represents each person's vocation, love is also a precious source for the self-giving which all men and women are called to make for their own self-realization and happiness. In fact, man is called to love as an incarnate spirit, that is soul and body in the unity of the person. Human love hence embraces the body, and the body also expresses spiritual love. Therefore, sexuality is not something purely biological, rather it concerns the intimate nucleus of the person. The use of sexuality as physical giving has its own truth and reaches its full meaning when it expresses the personal giving of man and woman even unto death. As with the whole of the person's life, love is exposed to the frailty brought about by original sin, a frailty experienced today in many socio-cultural contexts marked by strong negative influences, at times deviant and traumatic. Nevertheless, the Lord's Redemption has made the positive practice of chastity into something that is really possible and a motive for joy, both for those who have the vocation to marriage (before, in the time of preparation, and afterwards, in the course of married life) as well as for those who have the gift of a special calling to the consecrated life.

UCAS logo But modern society holds a rather negative view of chastity, it is seen as weird or repressive. Whilst I don’t wish to discuss on my own fidelity to this teaching on the Internet (for obvious reasons), I wish to show how difficult it can be to follow Catholic sexual ethics as a young person in the UK. The following is an excerpt from a magazine that my kid brother received. He’s going to university and this was one of the tips that UCAS (the Universities & Colleges Admissions Service) compiled…

UCAS advice

All future undergraduates receive such literature, regardless of their faith. Personally I don’t have a problem with it, and I doubt my kid brother does either, we have our own minds. But, it highlights well how we Catholics are increasingly at odds with an increasingly secular society.

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Roman Catholic ethics ‘cheat sheet’

This post deals with ethical issues. Keep your cool and don't get into an ethical pickle! Remember, others have different points of view; use the comments.

As mentioned previously, one in five people are Catholic. That’s a staggering number of people to co-ordinate so a deontological structure has been set up around Catholicism. Some people would argue this is a bad thing, personally I think we need rules to flourish. However, it can be quite difficult to know what to do in a given situation sometimes, so I’ve put together this wee ‘cheat sheet’ you can use.

A brief introduction to the types of ethics

Scale: legalism to anti-nomianism

On one hand, we have legalism – too many laws; on the other, anti-nomianism – too few laws. We can re-describe this as “moral absolutism vs. moral relativism”.

Moral absolutists believe that there are a set of rules that apply to everyone, regardless of who they are or the situation they’re in. So, murder would be wrong in every case.

Moral relativists believe that the rules that apply depend on who it is and what the situation is. So, murder may be justifiable if the murder of one person could say the lives of millions of others.

Catholic ethics are derived from Aquinas’ Natural Law. They are, for the most part, moral absolutes and the Pope discourages the moral relativism of the twenty-first century…

“Relativism, by indiscriminately giving value to practically everything, has made ‘experience’ all-important. Yet experiences, detached from any consideration of what is good or true, can lead not to genuine freedom but to moral or intellectual confusion, to a lowering of standards, to a loss of self-respect. ”

“A new generation of Christians is being called to help build a world in which God’s gift of life is welcomed, respected and cherished — not rejected, feared as a threat and destroyed.”

Situation ethics was a term coined by Joseph Fletcher in 1960. This is a good example of moral relativism, there is only one rule, agape (love), and we should aim to do the most loving thing in each situation. Of course, this leads to problems. Watch the SlideShare presentation online by Pisp.co.uk…

This post isn’t meant to be a full-on discussion of ethics, although I may publish one in the future. This post is meant to be a brief guide to Catholic ethics, not intended as a replacement for proper prayer and reflection, or advice from a parish priest.

On contraceptives

Modern society Roman Catholic Church
  • I don't want a million kids.
  • I want to have a child when the time is right, yet still express my love to my partner.
  • Extreme: I'm a little promiscuous and don't want kids after every date.

Contraceptives are intrinsically evil. Why? First, we believe human life is scared as we are made imago Dei (in the image of God)... not like we look like him (since God is transcendent), but that we were all once in the divine mind. God had a plan and we were part of it. Sounds a little crazy so far, I know.

Second, we follow Natural Law. Humans are meant to produce offspring... it's just nature. By using a contraceptive, you're putting a barrier there, preventing babies from being made.

Of course, this has a lot of implications. What about family planning? The Church has an answer to that: there are apparently times in the, uh, lunar cycle when a woman isn't likely to conceive... get busy then. The other thing is, of course, what about LEDCs that are stricken by AIDS? I'm not sure what the church says to that.

On abortion

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  • It's a woman's right to choose.
  • A foetus is just part of a woman until 9 months later when it's squeezed out of her.
  • A foetus is has the potential to be human.
  • Extreme: Abortion is just another contraceptive.

The reasons here overlap with the one's mentioned previously, so I won't re-explain them. (1) Natural Law, you're preventing offspring. (2) Imago Dei, that foetus was made in God's image.

Okay, with that out of the way... the Church believes that life starts at the moment of conception. That imago Dei life starts when the sperm fertilises the ovum. If you abort, you're killing a life. It is a human, not a group of cells with the potential to be a human. Natural Law also states that we all have the right to live, hence abortion is murder.

There's also something called the principle of double effect, which means that abortion is right in the case of a risk to the mother’s health It’s more relevant with Euthanasia so I'll discuss there.

On euthanasia

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  • I want my loved ones to die peacefully.
  • People should be able to die with dignity.
  • Why should we waste money supporting people without a chance of recovery/survival?
  • Extreme: Let’s kill off all of the biddies

Again, this overlaps with the previous two since they're all connected to issues on the sanctity of life. Life is imago Dei and ending life is contrary to Natural Law.

The church believes that since life is imago Dei, it's not our choice whether or not that life is ended. Every life is scared--from God. Similarly, every person has dignity by virtue of their existence; they are human, created by God.

Interestingly, passive euthanasia, where a terminal patient might be administered a drug to relieve pain but it may also provoke or speed up death, is OK with us if all other methods have been exhausted. This is double effect in action: the intention is to relieve pain (a good intention), but a consequence is that death is sped up.

On divorce

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  • I'm not in love with my partner anymore.
  • Extreme: I'm in an abusive marriage and I'm not staying there.

For Catholics, marriage is something special. I'm not trying to say it's not special for non-Catholics, but for Catholics it's extra-special. It's not just a bit of paper, it's a promise that's taken between two people and God. You have to mean what you say, since you're entering into an agreement with the big G [see CCC 1639].

Break the promise by divorcing or committing adultery, then you're breaking a promise with God. That's not on... you don't mess with the almighty.

But, things do go wrong. The church is quite hot on counselling, so you'll be put through your paces on like a marriage course before the marriage, and then in the event of a problem. This isn't always enough, so the church understands that sometimes couples have to separate. This is separation, not divorce. Technically, in the eyes of the church (and by extension, God), you're married... you made that promise and you've gotta keep it even though you're not living together. This means that re-marriage is counted as adultery.

What about annulment? Yep, the church does this and it basically voids the marriage. You're made to stand in front of a group of people from the church and they'll judge whether or not there's a case for annulment. The idea is that you were lying when you took those vows, (e.g.) you didn't really love the person with your heart at the time, but you said "I do" anyway... perhaps out of guilt, or in cases of domestic violence, fear. Since the promise is between the couple and God, God will know that you weren't being honest and the marriage won't be recognised by him, but the priest will continue as normal with the marriage.

On premarital sex

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  • I want to have a bit of fun.
  • I'm in a stable relationship with a woman (or man) and I want to express that love physically.
  • I don't want the hassle of marriage.

Pre-marital sex should be avoided because of Catholic teaching on the marriage and the family. Sex is only for procreation... not fun! Using contraceptives are against Natural Law, as mentioned above. The best place for a child is within marriage as it provides a stable environment for them to develop physically, emotionally and spiritually.

On homosexuality

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  • Gay people exist. Get over it.
  • Extreme: Homosexuality is wrong because it says so in the bible.

Surprisingly, the church isn't all that bothered about gays. People think of the RCC as some sort of gay-hating organisation, but the truth is that a lot of the priesthood must have been made up of gays at some point. Think about back in the middle-ages... you're a man so you're expected to marry, but you're gay. What do you do? Priesthood. Notice that as acceptance and tolerance of gays has increased, the number of Catholic priests has declined. Just a theory.

Today, the church recognises that homosexuality isn't a disease and that it's just something that you're born with as there's too many homosexuals ("it's not negligible"). In fact, if you're gay you're welcome to have a partner, but you cannot marry them or get it on with them. Since contraceptives aren't acceptable since no life can come from protected sex, gay sex isn't acceptable since there's no chance that life can form. It's guy + guy or a girl + girl, and for baby-making you'll need guy + girl. This is a lot different from some other Christian denominations who try to 'fix' the gays.

On conscience

Catholic teaching on conscience dictates that when a conflict arises between a person's conscience and moral teaching, it is conscience that takes priority. At my Catholic school, we had the phrase “Conscience is man's most secret core, and his sanctuary. There he is alone with God whose voice echoes in his depths.” drilled into us in religious studies. It's from Guadium et Spes and is mirrored in the CCC. If after spending careful time reflecting, praying and discussing (perhaps with a priest) your conscience is telling you to do something then you should do it. In fact it's a sin not to obey your conscience in these occasions, and it's a sin for someone to prevent you doing so as well. The key point is that your conscience must be well-informed.

This is how I understand the Catholic Church in the 21st Century. We're a little conservative, yet we can justify ourselves, unlike some Christian groups that simply point to the bible. We're open to change and we're gradually accepting it.

If I’ve made any mistakes or you’d like to discuss this further, the comments are open.

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